december 10, 2008. wednesday night. i was living in asheville, he was living in charlotte. we met at a bar that neither of us had ever been to in hickory, about halfway between.
we hadn’t seen each other for more than 10 years. we were friends in college in chapel hill in the late ’90s. ‘friends’ might be pushing it – the truth is he was friends with my boyfriend, and i was living with his girlfriend. the 4 of us hung out together throughout that year, and i always liked him.
we reconnected through the magic of facebook in november and then decided to meet up for a drink. we ordered hawaiian pizza and didn’t touch it. we had beer and eye contact and laughs and sparks and made plans to see each other asap. i drove to charlotte two days later with holden and nacho and stayed for 3 days at his fantastic house on a lake and the rest is history.
i can’t say it’s luck or destiny or hard work or familiarity or timing or what. we like to do a lot of the same things. our energy levels are about even. he is smart and funny and kind and honest and responsible. he is curious and adventurous and makes his own health and mental health a relative priority. i love his hair. i love his smile. i love making him smile. his family is funny and generous and eerily similar to my own, and he has excellent taste in friends.
i don’t write about him or love or relationships too much here, maybe thinking sharing will dilute it, or maybe jinx it, or maybe because i know the anonymity of the web has evaporated in the past year or two and i am not comfortable with who is reading. i don’t want it to seem like bragging, or sillyfluffy, or gag-inducing. i’m not very social and i’m not very open to the public, and i am glad for this blog to be a creative outlet, but if you’re looking for deeply personal stuff, and you’re not one of the 2-3 close friends i am able to maintain at any given time, you should probably watch some reality tv instead!
i put the picture of the tee box markers on top since there have been 3 years, which is by far the longest relationship i’ve been in.
there’s been a lot of golden moments, and some blue, and some red. but mainly when i look back, they have been gold.